the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you commun

Wednesday night Kristin and I drove 2 hours down to Denver and the 2 hours back, just to hear a speaker talk for 3 hours. It was well worth it.

Doug, who works for Harv Eker and Peak Potentials Training, was a great speaker. He had come to talk about money... and how it affects every part of your life, especially your primary relationship.

If any of you are interested in mastering your finances and want to learn how to get money to work for you... versus you having to work for money... contact our office (see contact information at end of letter).

Because I am part of the 'ambassador program' with Peak Potential Trainings, we can get you in to the next Millionaire Mind Intensive three-day seminar at a ridiculously low price (and yes that is a shameless plug... GO). It is well worth your weekend!

Anyway, the point of this article is something Doug said midway through the evening.

He drew a chart on the board - two parrell veriticles lines with me written at the top of the one to the left and 'my problem' written above the one to the right.

He then drew a number 2 about 2/10 of the way up my line and a 5 half way up the one to the right.

What he said was if you had a problem that was a level 5 on a scale of 1 -10 and your skill level was a 2 in that area... then, comparatively speaking, that would be a big, and possibly overwhelming, problem. It would be an end-of-the-relationship type problem... a going-to-kick-your-butt type problem.

What he said next was that to change the situation all you had to do was to decide... decide that you will do whatever it takes - study, learn, practice, get guidance -- until your skill level is an 8. Then level 5 problems are no longer a problem!

If you apply this to relationship and communication skills like conflict resolution... or... clearing up misunderstandings... if you develop your skill level to a 7 or an 8...

Then a problem that used to stop you in your tracks and threatened to destroy your relationship will no longer even be a problem. It will be just a challenge, or even an opportunity to create more love and understanding.

I have an example of this principle from learning to kayak. When I was a beginner I was clumsy enough to get flipped over even on flat water, and being upside down, locked in my kayak...

THAT WAS A PROBLEM.

I would have to pull my skirt (release the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you communi

r program' with Peak Potential Trainings, we can get you in to the next Millionaire Mind Intensive three-day seminar at a ridiculously low price (and yes that is a shameless plug... GO). It is well worth your weekend!

Anyway, the point of this article is something Doug said midway through the evening.

He drew a chart on the board - two parrell veriticles lines with me written at the top of the one to the left and 'my problem' written above the one to the right.

He then drew a number 2 about 2/10 of the way up my line and a 5 half way up the one to the right.

What he said was if you had a problem that was a level 5 on a scale of 1 -10 and your skill level was a 2 in that area... then, comparatively speaking, that would be a big, and possibly overwhelming, problem. It would be an end-of-the-relationship type problem... a going-to-kick-your-butt type problem.

What he said next was that to change the situation all you had to do was to decide... decide that you will do whatever it takes - study, learn, practice, get guidance -- until your skill level is an 8. Then level 5 problems are no longer a problem!

If you apply this to relationship and communication skills like conflict resolution... or... clearing up misunderstandings... if you develop your skill level to a 7 or an 8...

Then a problem that used to stop you in your tracks and threatened to destroy your relationship will no longer even be a problem. It will be just a challenge, or even an opportunity to create more love and understanding.

I have an example of this principle from learning to kayak. When I was a beginner I was clumsy enough to get flipped over even on flat water, and being upside down, locked in my kayak...

THAT WAS A PROBLEM.

I would have to pull my skirt (release the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you commun

you had a problem that was a level 5 on a scale of 1 -10 and your skill level was a 2 in that area... then, comparatively speaking, that would be a big, and possibly overwhelming, problem. It would be an end-of-the-relationship type problem... a going-to-kick-your-butt type problem.

What he said next was that to change the situation all you had to do was to decide... decide that you will do whatever it takes - study, learn, practice, get guidance -- until your skill level is an 8. Then level 5 problems are no longer a problem!

If you apply this to relationship and communication skills like conflict resolution... or... clearing up misunderstandings... if you develop your skill level to a 7 or an 8...

Then a problem that used to stop you in your tracks and threatened to destroy your relationship will no longer even be a problem. It will be just a challenge, or even an opportunity to create more love and understanding.

I have an example of this principle from learning to kayak. When I was a beginner I was clumsy enough to get flipped over even on flat water, and being upside down, locked in my kayak...

THAT WAS A PROBLEM.

I would have to pull my skirt (release the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you commun

ike conflict resolution... or... clearing up misunderstandings... if you develop your skill level to a 7 or an 8...

Then a problem that used to stop you in your tracks and threatened to destroy your relationship will no longer even be a problem. It will be just a challenge, or even an opportunity to create more love and understanding.

I have an example of this principle from learning to kayak. When I was a beginner I was clumsy enough to get flipped over even on flat water, and being upside down, locked in my kayak...

THAT WAS A PROBLEM.

I would have to pull my skirt (release the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you commun

the water tight gasket around the cockpit) and swim to shore.

Now, because I have taken lessons, practiced whenever possible and focused on developing these skills, I can go through level 3 and 4 rapids, (level 5 is the top of the scale) get flipped over and just flip myself right back up...

NO PROBLEM! at least most of the time.

If you are ready for things like creating intimacy and understanding, resolving conflict quickly and easily, dealing with past history and each other's baggage to be NO PROBLEM, then take a weekend and learn these skills.

Transform the way you communicate and you can transform your relationship with anyone... including yourself.

Learn to deal with important, emotional issues without taking it personally or making it personal. Learn how to deal with the "HOT' issues without attacking or defending.

Is learning how to handle problems... a problem? Is it a level 2, a 5 or an 8 problem? What are you letting get in the way of the relationship of your dreams?

When you stretch and grow, when you take on the challenges and become more than the problem,... Life will become more enjoyable and who you are in the relationship will expand.

Will YOU be at level 2, 5 or 8? And what about those relationship issues you've just been pushing to the back of your mind? Are you ready to become bigger than your problems?

Are you ready to learn how?