she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but tha

Each day count your blessings to be alive and able to love. Although emotion may suggest that life is not always fair, never allow the pains, hurdles, and disappointments of the moment to overwhelm your loving attitude and plans for yourself and your beloved. What you don’t appreciate, depreciates. You can never win when you wear the resentful mask of self-pity, and the bitter taste of accusation. They will certainly frighten away any opportunity for love. Never again hold a critical thought for yourself or your beloved. There is a better way.

Understanding your lover, frees you to build more love with them. Trying to change them, destroys it. Sometimes our expectations are false, and that makes it impossible to be happy. If our expectations are real, then usually we find that people behave according to certain patterns, and those patterns belong to their constitution. Many quarrels occur between lovers because we fail to understand each others differences. Tolerance is important in this. What makes tolerance all the more easy is the skill of predicting exactly how a certain “type” of person will act and react.

What is fascinating is that we fall in love with what is unique about a person, and then spend the rest of the time in relationship trying to change them to be someone else. It’s because what makes them unique is also what causes all their problems.

The ancients knew that to define a person by what they think, was to play into the hands of the human Ego, so they focused their understanding of human character on the different constitution of each body type. The result is Yoga and its sister science of health, Ayurveda.

D came to me about his relationship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.

I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but that

g your lover, frees you to build more love with them. Trying to change them, destroys it. Sometimes our expectations are false, and that makes it impossible to be happy. If our expectations are real, then usually we find that people behave according to certain patterns, and those patterns belong to their constitution. Many quarrels occur between lovers because we fail to understand each others differences. Tolerance is important in this. What makes tolerance all the more easy is the skill of predicting exactly how a certain “type” of person will act and react.

What is fascinating is that we fall in love with what is unique about a person, and then spend the rest of the time in relationship trying to change them to be someone else. It’s because what makes them unique is also what causes all their problems.

The ancients knew that to define a person by what they think, was to play into the hands of the human Ego, so they focused their understanding of human character on the different constitution of each body type. The result is Yoga and its sister science of health, Ayurveda.

D came to me about his relationship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.

I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but tha

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What is fascinating is that we fall in love with what is unique about a person, and then spend the rest of the time in relationship trying to change them to be someone else. It’s because what makes them unique is also what causes all their problems.

The ancients knew that to define a person by what they think, was to play into the hands of the human Ego, so they focused their understanding of human character on the different constitution of each body type. The result is Yoga and its sister science of health, Ayurveda.

D came to me about his relationship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.

I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but tha

onship. “I have done everything she asked, I gave up golf, I look after the kids, I give her back rubs, I don’t watch footy, I am now a vegetarian, I listen to her spiritual music. Everything she asked, I did. I even closed my office early every day to pick up our daughter from school so my wife could work late in her own business. I did everything, and last week she left me because my income is lousy. She told me that she couldn’t hope to meet a more giving man, but she needed more”.

I asked D a question based on the fifth law of nature, “What do you think she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but tha

she was attracted to when you first met her, why did she marry you in the first place?”

D replied, “She wanted children, I wanted children. She wanted to build wealth, I wanted to build wealth. She wanted me to succeed in my clinic, I wanted her to succeed in her clinic. I guess you could say we had dreams to share and that’s what we loved about each other, we shared dreams and wanted to help each other fulfill them.”

Then I asked “So why did she leave?”

D replied, “Well my dreams didn’t happen, my business was struggling all the time, but that had a lot to do with the fact that she needed help and I gave up 3 hours a day in my clinic to help her.”

“So what you are saying, D, is that she lost faith in your dreams”

D replied “Yes, I guess so. But her success in her business was because I gave up on some of mine. Isn’t that what relationships are about, give and take?”

“I don’t know D, but why did she leave?”

“I told you, because she lost faith in my dreams. I did everything to please her, and still she wasn’t happy.”

I returned to the laws of Nature. “D. there’s a law, and it is universal, It says ‘Nobody can do to you more than you do to yourself’. So if your wife lost heart toward your dream, then that can only tell me that you did too.” D replied “Yes, but I wanted the relationship to work.”

I shared more “Did you know that when one person loses their dream, their vision for the future, they always turn their focus in on the relationship and begin to make the relationship the purpose of their life? Can you imagine a tree, whose purpose is to grow skyward, but it changes its mind and starts making its purpose helping another tree to grow. What do you think would happen?”

D replied “I know from what you told me before, the Nature destroys anything that does not fulfill its purpose.”

“So why would nature destroy your relationship?”

D had tears in his eyes “To get me back on purpose?”

I asked “And what is that?”

D replied “I don’t know. I had a dream when we met, but really all I wanted was a family. I think my dream was BS, all I wanted was a home and a baby and a wife.”

I asked “And was that what she thought when she agreed to marry you?”

He replied “No, she wanted a man just like her Dad, a wealthy successful immigrant who worked night and day to make a fortune. She wanted an ambitious man and I think I became that so she would love me and marry me. Now I think about it, I never really wanted all that stuff, but I went to the seminars she invited me to, and wrote these purpose statements about changing the world. All I really wanted, and ever dreamed about, was a simple home, a beautiful wife, a baby and an income from my teaching that could keep us comfortable. All the rest, I did for her.”