y find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and

Every year I take small groups of people to these sacred lakes. They go to find a deeper essence of life, to renew their individual commitment to authenticity. People sit by those lakes and dream, and there is no ego involved. Ego falls off on the way up. These lakes are a place where, legend has it, the power of prayers are multiplied by thousands upon thousands, a place where dreams that are dreamed, come true. And for me that has always been the case.

Now, here in this chapter I am going to share what I know about a vision quest you and your lover can do together. But before I do, I am going to share some don’ts.

1. Don’t be afraid. There is a wisdom far greater than the one you know as your mind. Let the dreams come, let them fly on the wings of love, and let them sit. Allow them a home, a resting place, because those dreams have been waiting for you to arrive. Let them find you, that is enough.

2. Hold those dreams sacred, share them with your beloved. Allow no soul to condemn, question, advise, interfere, compromise or criticise them. Prevent yourself from judging, or having the mindset to ask how, or why. Those two words kill the spirit of a dream.

3. Practice dreaming without action. I would like to share an example. You have a mother, look up from where you are seated now, and see around you one thing that reminds you of her. Then come back to this page and read on. Did you think, “What should I find?” Did you ask, “What sort of object?” Did you immediately find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and t

ere dreams that are dreamed, come true. And for me that has always been the case.

Now, here in this chapter I am going to share what I know about a vision quest you and your lover can do together. But before I do, I am going to share some don’ts.

1. Don’t be afraid. There is a wisdom far greater than the one you know as your mind. Let the dreams come, let them fly on the wings of love, and let them sit. Allow them a home, a resting place, because those dreams have been waiting for you to arrive. Let them find you, that is enough.

2. Hold those dreams sacred, share them with your beloved. Allow no soul to condemn, question, advise, interfere, compromise or criticise them. Prevent yourself from judging, or having the mindset to ask how, or why. Those two words kill the spirit of a dream.

3. Practice dreaming without action. I would like to share an example. You have a mother, look up from where you are seated now, and see around you one thing that reminds you of her. Then come back to this page and read on. Did you think, “What should I find?” Did you ask, “What sort of object?” Did you immediately find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and

on the wings of love, and let them sit. Allow them a home, a resting place, because those dreams have been waiting for you to arrive. Let them find you, that is enough.

2. Hold those dreams sacred, share them with your beloved. Allow no soul to condemn, question, advise, interfere, compromise or criticise them. Prevent yourself from judging, or having the mindset to ask how, or why. Those two words kill the spirit of a dream.

3. Practice dreaming without action. I would like to share an example. You have a mother, look up from where you are seated now, and see around you one thing that reminds you of her. Then come back to this page and read on. Did you think, “What should I find?” Did you ask, “What sort of object?” Did you immediately find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and

how, or why. Those two words kill the spirit of a dream.

3. Practice dreaming without action. I would like to share an example. You have a mother, look up from where you are seated now, and see around you one thing that reminds you of her. Then come back to this page and read on. Did you think, “What should I find?” Did you ask, “What sort of object?” Did you immediately find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and

y find something, but it didn’t seem right so you rejected it? This is the ego. That is why vision quests need to be learned. Eventually you will learn to hold your mind empty and allow your intuition to make choices without good reason.

4. Don’t dream about how you want to feel, who you want to become, how you want to change yourself. All this comes from judgment, and that judgment is from your mind. Dream only of doing. What would I love to do? This is the only area where spirit can guide you. Who you are, and who you become is irrelevant to a vision quest. Only your ego cares about that.

5. Always ask. Don’t force the answer. Don’t judge the result. Be thankful for the opportunity you have to hear. Avoid wanting anything. Ambivalence is the state of mind in which inspiration will come to you. Just be open.

6. Remove all your hopes. Most blockage in visioning comes from wanting. Wanting to be peaceful, wanting to be loving, wanting to be nice, wanting to be spiritual. Wanting is blockage. True visioning means, “Whatever it takes, I will follow the guidance I get”.

7. Don’t be bluffed by others. These days, self-help language is freely available, gurus abound, spiritual teachers are many, bookshops are filled with anything from how to hurt people (turn your boyfriend into a frog), to how to call down an angel. It is hard to know people now, because we have so much language. People can talk the talk, but can they walk the walk? Walk the talk. If you want to really know a person, see what they do, and how they do it. All else, is myth.