es a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl i

When there is something wrong, we need to fix it.
Then, if our business is low in profit, we fix it.
If our leg is broken, or our bowel is blocked, we fix it.
If our car gets stolen, we fix that, we ring the police and insurance
Right?
If we have a back pain, we fix that too, we go to a back doctor.
OR even if our memory is lost, we go to a head doctor.
But sometimes we go to the doctor when there is no problem
Just not happy. And we call this, self help.

Now there are many definitions of “just not happy”. If you go to a person who specializes in ADD, you will have ADD. And if you are not happy, and go to a person who specializes in Depression, no doubt you have depression. And if you go to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl i

a head doctor.
But sometimes we go to the doctor when there is no problem
Just not happy. And we call this, self help.

Now there are many definitions of “just not happy”. If you go to a person who specializes in ADD, you will have ADD. And if you are not happy, and go to a person who specializes in Depression, no doubt you have depression. And if you go to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl i

to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl i

elp, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl i

es a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl is not. The winner of the competition is the cowboy or cowgirl who brands the steer fastest. Because why waste time. Lets get it over with.

Now the steer thinks something is wrong with it. Right? It thinks “oh Shit” I must have food allergy, or hypertension, or mad cow or something, so it goes running around trying to find a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

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