usband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, theYears ago, the famous cartoonist, Walt Kelly, wrote this immortal line for his character, Pogo Possum: “We have met the enemy ... and he is us.” When it comes to relationships, we often turn out to be our own worst enemies. The true enemy could be “inner me.” Once we get rid of our self-defeating practices, we have won half the battle. To follow Sun Tzu’s advice, in The Art of War, if you know your enemy, it allows you to outsmart and defeat him. Applying that principle, knowing ourselves (the enemy) will allow us to defeat the patterns that we have followed over and over, leading to unsuccessful relationships.

In order to change our patterns, we must rethink the ways we’ve been doing things. We must apply new standards to our lives and dating experiences. For example: You will not meet “Mr. Right” in the “wrong” places. If you do not want a bar fly for a husband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, they

ies. The true enemy could be “inner me.” Once we get rid of our self-defeating practices, we have won half the battle. To follow Sun Tzu’s advice, in The Art of War, if you know your enemy, it allows you to outsmart and defeat him. Applying that principle, knowing ourselves (the enemy) will allow us to defeat the patterns that we have followed over and over, leading to unsuccessful relationships.

In order to change our patterns, we must rethink the ways we’ve been doing things. We must apply new standards to our lives and dating experiences. For example: You will not meet “Mr. Right” in the “wrong” places. If you do not want a bar fly for a husband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, the

d defeat him. Applying that principle, knowing ourselves (the enemy) will allow us to defeat the patterns that we have followed over and over, leading to unsuccessful relationships.

In order to change our patterns, we must rethink the ways we’ve been doing things. We must apply new standards to our lives and dating experiences. For example: You will not meet “Mr. Right” in the “wrong” places. If you do not want a bar fly for a husband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, the

we must rethink the ways we’ve been doing things. We must apply new standards to our lives and dating experiences. For example: You will not meet “Mr. Right” in the “wrong” places. If you do not want a bar fly for a husband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, theusband, do not look for men at a bar. Often, women will meet a man in these types of places and begin to date him, and then when it turns out that their man wants to hang out in bars all the time or is an alcoholic, they are surprised and disappointed. What did they expect to find in a bar if not a man who likes to go to bars? One should not expect to find gold in a coal mine.

Sometimes the problem women have is dating the wrong types of men. Women often get burned emotionally over and over because of their repeating patterns. For example “players” and “bad boys” are exciting to be around and might show you a nice time, that is, when they have time to fit you into their schedules. However, you can end up being continuously disappointed. What is the problem with dating men of the playboy variety? They grow from boys to adult men, but keep their childish ways. They do not stop playing; they just change toys.

Some women are drawn to powerful men. As Henry Kissinger once stated, “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.” However, these women often find that the powerful man