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Dear Mr. Retail Salesperson
We (your customers) have been talking a lot lately. Together, we’ve decided to confront you about a very important matter: how to provide us with a better experience in your store.See, it works like this – our experience in your store can either be comfortable enough to encourage our purchase,

he other person is so upset - directly acknowledge his or her feelings ("you are angry, hurt, confused") and his or her interpretation of the situation ("and, you have every right to be upset, because what I did was wrong.")

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is g

Looking Inside of Your New Business
Starting a home business is like putting together a jigsaw puzzle. You're facing a pile of scattered pieces and it may be a little uncertain where to begin. I think that the best way to begin is by taking a look inside yourself: at your talents, abilities, interests, and personal motivations

The loss of trust is a very painful experience. It often involves a lot of hurt, confusion, anger, and sadness.

Dealing with these emotions is critical when trying to rebuild trust. When upset, we want our partners to understand our point of view - to understand our feelings and emotions.

Understanding how we feel is important because it helps us deal with our negative feelings and move beyond them.

If a partner does not take the time to make us feel understood - we try to get even - we try to make our partners feel as bad as we do. Even though it sounds childish, when someone does not understand our hurt or pain - we try to make them feel what we are feeling (this is often an unconscious response). Not feeling understood, often leads to a game of inflicting mutual hurt.

In most cases, partners do not take the time to make us feel understood because they do not know how to do it OR because they get defensive (feel under attack).

When accused of wrongdoing, people often try to...

apologize
offer excuses and explanations
withdraw
or even attack back...

These strategies do NOT work because they fail to create real understanding. Simply put, people need to feel understood before apologies are offered and explanations are given. It is virtually impossible to rebuild trust until people who have been harmed feel understood.

So, when trying to build or repair trust - it helps to see the situation from a partner's point of view. Try to understand why the other person is so upset - directly acknowledge his or her feelings ("you are angry, hurt, confused") and his or her interpretation of the situation ("and, you have every right to be upset, because what I did was wrong.")

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is go

Foreclosures Are At An All Time High!
With FORECLOSURES at a all time high many are making a dangerous assumption that now is the time to invest but with some hard work and research everyone will learn that the are some locations or areas that are more attractive than others. As a matter of fact there are some regions that are not as attra

gs and move beyond them.

In most cases, partners do not take the time to make us feel understood because they do not know how to do it OR because they get defensive (feel under attack).

When accused of wrongdoing, people often try to...

apologize
offer excuses and explanations
withdraw
or even attack back...

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is g

Business And Heart
Business must be tampered with heart and care for environment and others. Failure to do so, will lead to all kinds of problems.Take for example, the global warming and earth changes are direct effects of this lack of care. Many of us simply did not cared enough to keep the environment from deter

icting mutual hurt.

In most cases, partners do not take the time to make us feel understood because they do not know how to do it OR because they get defensive (feel under attack).

When accused of wrongdoing, people often try to...

apologize
offer excuses and explanations
withdraw
or even attack back...

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is g

Ergonomic Office Chairs - Choosing the Right One Can be Difficult
Worker's tend to spend the majority of their day sitting in an office chair, shouldn't they be comfortable? A good ergonomic office chair is hard to find and even harder to choose. There are many factors to consider in finding the right ergonomic chair for your body type and workplace conditions. In ex

do NOT work because they fail to create real understanding. Simply put, people need to feel understood before apologies are offered and explanations are given. It is virtually impossible to rebuild trust until people who have been harmed feel understood.

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is g

Indonesia Volcano
Well, it looks like Indonesia is about ready to have another huge Earth Event. In the last few years they have had massive Earthquakes and a giant Tsunami, which killed nearly 200,000 people. Now the people of Indonesia face a huge Volcano. However, the islands people do not see volcanoes as bad, but

You basically have to agree that the other person's feelings are legitimate and fair - let the other person know that you get it. If you can do this, trust is going to be much easier to regain.

If you can make someone feel understood when they are upset, they are more likely to...

calm down
forgive you
feel closer
listen to your side of the story...

If you don't take the time to understand your partner's feelings, rebuilding trust is much more difficult to do. But, once you make a partner feel understood, it becomes possible to offer an effective apology.

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