actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to tha

In this article I'm going to cover the 11 most obvious signs of a cheating spouse, the ones that signal the greatest likelihood of infidelity, in the hopes that it will help prevent the emotional trauma that people suffer from infidelity--millions are harmed by unfaithful spouses every year, and often the damage would have been lessened had they known early on, had they known some of the warning signs.

When an infidelity victim finally mustered the strength to end their relationship with her partner, she displayed all the symptoms of a victim of physical and psychological abuse - anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem and a distorted sense of reality. Yet their partner was no typical perpetrator of domestic violence. He had not laid a hand on her during their relationship and only rarely raised his voice to her. Yet they have managed to undermine and diminish her to the point of illness and hospitalization through their relentless pursuit of a long-standing sexual affair with his work colleague. Don't let this happen to you, don't deny the possibility, and keep your eyes open for:

1. The MOST obvious and important: SUDDEN CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR--this is the biggest one, and the one that is ALWAYS exhibited by a cheating spouse, although someone exhibiting this isn't necessarily cheating, obviously.

Examples:

• Wants to go places alone.
• Develops sudden platonic relationships.
• Stays out late at unexpected meetings or events.
• Frequently receives phone calls at times when he/she almost never used to.
• Develops sudden interest in odd activities/clubs/organizations/hobbies, doesn't seem to want you to join in (or chooses ones you can't join in on).

*Note that the keyword with this one is 'sudden'--behavior that suddenly changes or seems to come out of left field, behavior that is uncharacteristic of your partner.

2. Phone bill(s) and/or their personal financial records/bills (bank statements) are either intercepted before you can see them or are forwarded elsewhere (office, PO Box, friend's house, etc.).

3. Sudden (there's that word again) improvement in appearance: gets more frequent/expensive haircuts, better clothes/jewelry, loses weight or shows sudden interest in doing so (i.e. 40-something Bob, big-bellied bowling champ and avid football fan, suddenly decides to join Jenny Craig--hhhmmmmmm, hint-hint).

4. Starts hiding or securing certain things or information from you, i.e. puts password on their computer (or encrypts/hides certain files), locks up his/her laptop in their vehicle then takes their car keys off your keychain (check their glove compartment--locked? why? won't give you a key? why??!), gets a safe deposit box and won't say what's in it (or they do and they're lying), puts stuff in a shed or area of the attic or garage that they can padlock and won't give you a key, gets a small lock-box and hides under bed or in the closet or in the attic etc.

5. Suddenly becomes very late for things they usually wouldn't be ("I'll be home at 6 honey"...shows up at 10, repeats similar performance several more times).

6. Spends lots of time away, says they're with friends, then you hear their friends talking about how they haven't seen him/her as much lately or they haven't even seen them at all in several weeks.

7. Says they're working late/overtime, you ask one of their coworkers about the overtime or extra hours and, "Huh? No, not really; we've actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to tha

point of illness and hospitalization through their relentless pursuit of a long-standing sexual affair with his work colleague. Don't let this happen to you, don't deny the possibility, and keep your eyes open for:

1. The MOST obvious and important: SUDDEN CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR--this is the biggest one, and the one that is ALWAYS exhibited by a cheating spouse, although someone exhibiting this isn't necessarily cheating, obviously.

Examples:

• Wants to go places alone.
• Develops sudden platonic relationships.
• Stays out late at unexpected meetings or events.
• Frequently receives phone calls at times when he/she almost never used to.
• Develops sudden interest in odd activities/clubs/organizations/hobbies, doesn't seem to want you to join in (or chooses ones you can't join in on).

*Note that the keyword with this one is 'sudden'--behavior that suddenly changes or seems to come out of left field, behavior that is uncharacteristic of your partner.

2. Phone bill(s) and/or their personal financial records/bills (bank statements) are either intercepted before you can see them or are forwarded elsewhere (office, PO Box, friend's house, etc.).

3. Sudden (there's that word again) improvement in appearance: gets more frequent/expensive haircuts, better clothes/jewelry, loses weight or shows sudden interest in doing so (i.e. 40-something Bob, big-bellied bowling champ and avid football fan, suddenly decides to join Jenny Craig--hhhmmmmmm, hint-hint).

4. Starts hiding or securing certain things or information from you, i.e. puts password on their computer (or encrypts/hides certain files), locks up his/her laptop in their vehicle then takes their car keys off your keychain (check their glove compartment--locked? why? won't give you a key? why??!), gets a safe deposit box and won't say what's in it (or they do and they're lying), puts stuff in a shed or area of the attic or garage that they can padlock and won't give you a key, gets a small lock-box and hides under bed or in the closet or in the attic etc.

5. Suddenly becomes very late for things they usually wouldn't be ("I'll be home at 6 honey"...shows up at 10, repeats similar performance several more times).

6. Spends lots of time away, says they're with friends, then you hear their friends talking about how they haven't seen him/her as much lately or they haven't even seen them at all in several weeks.

7. Says they're working late/overtime, you ask one of their coworkers about the overtime or extra hours and, "Huh? No, not really; we've actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to tha

*Note that the keyword with this one is 'sudden'--behavior that suddenly changes or seems to come out of left field, behavior that is uncharacteristic of your partner.

2. Phone bill(s) and/or their personal financial records/bills (bank statements) are either intercepted before you can see them or are forwarded elsewhere (office, PO Box, friend's house, etc.).

3. Sudden (there's that word again) improvement in appearance: gets more frequent/expensive haircuts, better clothes/jewelry, loses weight or shows sudden interest in doing so (i.e. 40-something Bob, big-bellied bowling champ and avid football fan, suddenly decides to join Jenny Craig--hhhmmmmmm, hint-hint).

4. Starts hiding or securing certain things or information from you, i.e. puts password on their computer (or encrypts/hides certain files), locks up his/her laptop in their vehicle then takes their car keys off your keychain (check their glove compartment--locked? why? won't give you a key? why??!), gets a safe deposit box and won't say what's in it (or they do and they're lying), puts stuff in a shed or area of the attic or garage that they can padlock and won't give you a key, gets a small lock-box and hides under bed or in the closet or in the attic etc.

5. Suddenly becomes very late for things they usually wouldn't be ("I'll be home at 6 honey"...shows up at 10, repeats similar performance several more times).

6. Spends lots of time away, says they're with friends, then you hear their friends talking about how they haven't seen him/her as much lately or they haven't even seen them at all in several weeks.

7. Says they're working late/overtime, you ask one of their coworkers about the overtime or extra hours and, "Huh? No, not really; we've actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to tha

s their car keys off your keychain (check their glove compartment--locked? why? won't give you a key? why??!), gets a safe deposit box and won't say what's in it (or they do and they're lying), puts stuff in a shed or area of the attic or garage that they can padlock and won't give you a key, gets a small lock-box and hides under bed or in the closet or in the attic etc.

5. Suddenly becomes very late for things they usually wouldn't be ("I'll be home at 6 honey"...shows up at 10, repeats similar performance several more times).

6. Spends lots of time away, says they're with friends, then you hear their friends talking about how they haven't seen him/her as much lately or they haven't even seen them at all in several weeks.

7. Says they're working late/overtime, you ask one of their coworkers about the overtime or extra hours and, "Huh? No, not really; we've actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to tha

actually had it pretty easy lately..." Hmm, NOT a good sign.

8. Doesn't want you showing up at work, or at some other specific place at a certain time and seems almost desperate, upset, or angry when he/she suddenly hears you're coming--his/her reaction to such things seems severely out of proportion.

9. Sudden (there's that word again) lack of sexual interest. If we're talking about your husband, this is a BIG one, obviously: you try getting him interested then suddenly find yourself rejected and wondering when the hell did he ever NOT want to?! There's an unlikely chance it's due to a medical condition, but if you find yourself using that to excuse for him just remember that one word: unlikely...VERY unlikely.

10. Look in his or her wallet, this can be a VERY plentiful source of clues/evidence: receipts from meals they didn't take you to that covers two people (if it's HIS wallet and the other person had a peach daiquiri and a chicken caesar salad, hmmm), ticket stubs from things they didn't take you to, a telephone number with 'call me' note (always a good clue...), condoms and two of you haven't used condoms in years, receipts from strip clubs especially if there's a VERY big tip to one person (a bit obvious, but

11. His/her underwear smells like perfume/cologne...it's not yours...ok, that's BAD.

Some of these might seem a bit obvious but remember: never underestimate the stupidity of stupid people--there's lots of them out there so odds are good that your partner is one of them, which means your odds of catching them are good.

Happy hunting.

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