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Financing Your Franchise: SBA Loans Emotions will either lead or be led. Our emotion would always take over and control us, if we don’t actively take charge. We can learn to elicit the kind of feeling that we really desire, rather than leaving it to life events, our emotions or other people’s opinion. Our mind is like a computer; its output is dependent on our input. If we always input positive things, we will always get a positive output, and vice versa.Financing is one of the most confusing, and often frustrating, aspects of opening a franchise. Some franchisees pay cash, others take out home equity loans or tap into their retirement savings.In this article, we look at one of the most popular methods of franchise financing: the SBA Loan. SBA Loans are loans made by traditional lenders such as banks that are guaranteed by the federal government’s Small Business Administration.Banks prefer to lend money to franchise concepts which they have a positive track record, so the best place to start is with your franchisor. The franchisor should be able to provide you with a list of lenders that are familiar with its concept, have made SBA loans to other franchisees and have a positive track record underwriting the concept. Some franchisors have a dedicated outreach program to educate lenders about their concepts. The majority of major franchisors also participate in the SBA Registry program. To appear in the registry, franchises must meet certain eligibility requirements and pay an annual registration fee. Franchisees of systems listed on the registry We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philipp If we always take the same actions, we will always arrive at the same destination. You may not be able to stop your divorce, but you can choose whether it pushes forward or backward in life. Moving on, starts with taking the first step; take that step today. Learn how to start loving again. Start with yourself. Once your self-love start radiating, it will start attracting others, and success into your life. Divorce can be painful and a threat to ones security and wellbeing. It can also have a big impact on self-esteem. Pain is inevitable, but we have to feel the pain, and then move on. People will become insecure, if they allow divorce to keep dragging their spirit down. It is essential that we all work on ourselves by learning how to overcome traumatic events like divorce. Otherwise they will overcome us with: anxiety, stress, frustration and disappointment. We can learn to use our pain as an emotional tool for a positive change. We can either turn our pain into a stumbling block that will immobilize us, and stop us from progressing in life. Or we can turn our pain to a stepping stone. This is using our pain as motivation to get us to the next level. Emotional stumbling block can develop as a result of lack of forgiveness. In order to move on with our lives, there have to be forgiveness, even when it is painful. Forgiveness is a painful choice, and not a feeling. We will never feel like forgiving someone who has hurt us, but we need to forgive people, in order to become emotional free from them. We tend to dwell on things we haven’t forgiven. Forgiveness is a choice, and not a feeling. We will never feel like forgiving someone who has hurt us. However, feeling good, start with forgiveness, because it allows us to close the chapter. People with unfinished business find it hard to open a new chapter. And this steals their joy. When we refuse to forgive, bitterness would eat us up from inside out. Bitterness happens as a result of unresolved anger. Bitterness is like a cancer that can spreads to every part of people’s lives. And bitterness defiles: Hebrews 12:15 – “looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;” (NKJV). Bitterness is a seed that starts from a habit of negative thinking, which has grown over a period of time. Like any seed, it just gets bigger and bigger over time. Our thoughts usually become what we talk about, what we talk about usually becomes our actions. When we repeat these actions over some time, it will become our attitude and affect our decisions. We need to get rid of any bitterness, in order to heal. Bitterness can also lead to a life of stress and depression, if it becomes a habit: Ephesians 4:31 – “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Emotional baggage and garbage from lack of forgiveness, is what really hold people back. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive ourselves first. We often blame ourselves after traumatic events, even when it is not our fault. This happens as a result of false guilt, false humility or irrational thinking. Even when it is our fault, we can let go and learn to make better choices. Beating ourselves up is unproductive. Holding on to the emotional baggage and garbage will only hold us back. It is the will of God for that people forgive their Ex. God wants His people to be free: Ephesians 4:32 - “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (NIV) Forgiveness opens door to new life possibilities in life. Divorce can be a new beginning and a stepping stone to our new life. Instead of it become a stumbling block that will steal our joy and peace. Setbacks can be painful, but they either become our stumbling block or stepping stones. The choice is ours to make. We can either choose to be pessimistic, and allow our life to be dragged down. Or become optimistic by allowing God to lift us up: Psalm 147:6a – “The LORD lifts up the humble;” (NKJV) We must learn to respond to life events, and not allow negative emotions to respond for us. Emotions will either lead or be led. Our emotion would always take over and control us, if we don’t actively take charge. We can learn to elicit the kind of feeling that we really desire, rather than leaving it to life events, our emotions or other people’s opinion. Our mind is like a computer; its output is dependent on our input. If we always input positive things, we will always get a positive output, and vice versa. We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philippi We can either turn our pain into a stumbling block that will immobilize us, and stop us from progressing in life. Or we can turn our pain to a stepping stone. This is using our pain as motivation to get us to the next level. Emotional stumbling block can develop as a result of lack of forgiveness. In order to move on with our lives, there have to be forgiveness, even when it is painful. Forgiveness is a painful choice, and not a feeling. We will never feel like forgiving someone who has hurt us, but we need to forgive people, in order to become emotional free from them. We tend to dwell on things we haven’t forgiven. Forgiveness is a choice, and not a feeling. We will never feel like forgiving someone who has hurt us. However, feeling good, start with forgiveness, because it allows us to close the chapter. People with unfinished business find it hard to open a new chapter. And this steals their joy. When we refuse to forgive, bitterness would eat us up from inside out. Bitterness happens as a result of unresolved anger. Bitterness is like a cancer that can spreads to every part of people’s lives. And bitterness defiles: Hebrews 12:15 – “looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;” (NKJV). Bitterness is a seed that starts from a habit of negative thinking, which has grown over a period of time. Like any seed, it just gets bigger and bigger over time. Our thoughts usually become what we talk about, what we talk about usually becomes our actions. When we repeat these actions over some time, it will become our attitude and affect our decisions. We need to get rid of any bitterness, in order to heal. Bitterness can also lead to a life of stress and depression, if it becomes a habit: Ephesians 4:31 – “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Emotional baggage and garbage from lack of forgiveness, is what really hold people back. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive ourselves first. We often blame ourselves after traumatic events, even when it is not our fault. This happens as a result of false guilt, false humility or irrational thinking. Even when it is our fault, we can let go and learn to make better choices. Beating ourselves up is unproductive. Holding on to the emotional baggage and garbage will only hold us back. It is the will of God for that people forgive their Ex. God wants His people to be free: Ephesians 4:32 - “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (NIV) Forgiveness opens door to new life possibilities in life. Divorce can be a new beginning and a stepping stone to our new life. Instead of it become a stumbling block that will steal our joy and peace. Setbacks can be painful, but they either become our stumbling block or stepping stones. The choice is ours to make. We can either choose to be pessimistic, and allow our life to be dragged down. Or become optimistic by allowing God to lift us up: Psalm 147:6a – “The LORD lifts up the humble;” (NKJV) We must learn to respond to life events, and not allow negative emotions to respond for us. Emotions will either lead or be led. Our emotion would always take over and control us, if we don’t actively take charge. We can learn to elicit the kind of feeling that we really desire, rather than leaving it to life events, our emotions or other people’s opinion. Our mind is like a computer; its output is dependent on our input. If we always input positive things, we will always get a positive output, and vice versa. We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philipp Bitterness is a seed that starts from a habit of negative thinking, which has grown over a period of time. Like any seed, it just gets bigger and bigger over time. Our thoughts usually become what we talk about, what we talk about usually becomes our actions. When we repeat these actions over some time, it will become our attitude and affect our decisions. We need to get rid of any bitterness, in order to heal. Bitterness can also lead to a life of stress and depression, if it becomes a habit: Ephesians 4:31 – “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Emotional baggage and garbage from lack of forgiveness, is what really hold people back. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive ourselves first. We often blame ourselves after traumatic events, even when it is not our fault. This happens as a result of false guilt, false humility or irrational thinking. Even when it is our fault, we can let go and learn to make better choices. Beating ourselves up is unproductive. Holding on to the emotional baggage and garbage will only hold us back. It is the will of God for that people forgive their Ex. God wants His people to be free: Ephesians 4:32 - “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (NIV) Forgiveness opens door to new life possibilities in life. Divorce can be a new beginning and a stepping stone to our new life. Instead of it become a stumbling block that will steal our joy and peace. Setbacks can be painful, but they either become our stumbling block or stepping stones. The choice is ours to make. We can either choose to be pessimistic, and allow our life to be dragged down. Or become optimistic by allowing God to lift us up: Psalm 147:6a – “The LORD lifts up the humble;” (NKJV) We must learn to respond to life events, and not allow negative emotions to respond for us. Emotions will either lead or be led. Our emotion would always take over and control us, if we don’t actively take charge. We can learn to elicit the kind of feeling that we really desire, rather than leaving it to life events, our emotions or other people’s opinion. Our mind is like a computer; its output is dependent on our input. If we always input positive things, we will always get a positive output, and vice versa. We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philipp Forgiveness opens door to new life possibilities in life. Divorce can be a new beginning and a stepping stone to our new life. Instead of it become a stumbling block that will steal our joy and peace. Setbacks can be painful, but they either become our stumbling block or stepping stones. The choice is ours to make. We can either choose to be pessimistic, and allow our life to be dragged down. Or become optimistic by allowing God to lift us up: Psalm 147:6a – “The LORD lifts up the humble;” (NKJV) We must learn to respond to life events, and not allow negative emotions to respond for us. Emotions will either lead or be led. Our emotion would always take over and control us, if we don’t actively take charge. We can learn to elicit the kind of feeling that we really desire, rather than leaving it to life events, our emotions or other people’s opinion. Our mind is like a computer; its output is dependent on our input. If we always input positive things, we will always get a positive output, and vice versa. We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philipp We must purposely choose our desired inputs, and disallow inputs that we really don’t want, in our mind. Our inputs include what we read, who we listen to, what we what analyze, what we watch and what we talk about. Our input will affect our decisions: Luke 6:45 - “The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (NIV) The good news is, we can purposely input great things, and design our life outcome. Our inputs always start with our thoughts. What has happened has happened. We must choose inputs that build us up as human beings: Philippians 4:8 - “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” We must watch what we talk about, even in jest. It is what comes out of our mouth that matter, not whether we mean it or not. God has given us the freewill to choose. Our actions are either destructive or productive. Our actions and decisions are either taking us nearer to our life purpose, or taking us further from it. The clues for what our purpose it, is revealed in our strength and passion. We were designed for a purpose; God has a life plan for us. Things may not be working out, because we are not working on the same page as God. God has our good future planned for us. We need get on His page. We have tried our page and it hasn’t worked. We might has well try his: Jeremiah 29:11 - “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” We must not confuse passion with obsession. Passion is strength while obsession is a weakness. Passion builds us, while obsession destroys. Pursuing a passion brings peace. Pursuing an obsession steal our peace. Passion is productive. Obsession is destructive. Passion is healthy desires. Obsession is unhealthy craving. Passion is not a sin. Obsession is usually sinful. We can have a break from a passion. Obsession is an addiction. Having a break from it involves pain. God can deliver us from any obsession, when we go to him in prayer.The good news is that research shows that it takes only 21 days to develop any new habit. All we have to do is repeat our positive actions for 21 days. And it will become our new positive habit. It is easier to replace our bad habits with goods one, than to remove them. This is because habits can become automatic. We need to change our habits, in order to change our lives If we always do the same things, we will always get the same result. Life is a journey with optional destinations. If we always do the same actions, we will always arrive at the same destination. We may not be able to stop our setback, but we can choose whether it pushes forward or backward. We can choose our own journey and destination. Every action and destination starts with the first step. Start loving again. Start with yourself. Once your self-love start radiating, it will start attracting others. Start with positive self-talk today. Tell yourself “I am a winner” everyday, until it becomes your reality: Joel 3:10b - “Let the weak say, I am strong.” Please leave a short comment by clicking the post a comment link, at the top right of this article. Your feedback means a lot to me. You can also email me as I am putting together an online community that will empower people. I will like you to become part of it, and become empowered and learn to control your feelings, instead of them controlling you. © Copyright Henrietta Elegunde. Please feel free to distribute free of charge, but always include my details (from the resource box) below.
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