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Digg it UP - Change Your Language And Reduce Your Anger - Part 2
Over the past few years you've all become familiar with the terms spam, spam filter, whitelists, blacklists and a whole myriad of other terminology associated with the problem of spam. You now have to add a new and extremely worrying phrase to that list - spam zombie.With the net closing in around them spammers are looking for new and more inventive ways to send out their junk email. Spam filters and challenge response systems are becoming progressively more intelligent and blocking more spam each day. What was a spammer to do? The spammers took the next step - infiltrating your PC and using it as a spamming tool.When m
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary
The cost of medical treatment has really risen over the past several decades. The days when the doctor would come out to your house in order to see how you are doing are long gone, and now it seems to be such a business that there really isn't any treatment on a personal level any longer. That is why the United States Government set up the Medicaid program in 1965 in order to help low income individuals and families to be able to afford proper medical treatment, even when those treatments would be out of their means. The problem is that it is a federal program that is co-funded and administered on the state level. That makes the amou
Awareness
In reality what I am encouraging is that we become more self aware. I am also encouraging that we have a new internal conversation that allows us to be in tune with our needs, expectations and desires. To do this effectively we need a stronger emotional vocabulary. Often we have unmet needs and expectations which are unfulfilled. These represent sensitive areas in our thinking and feeling that, if threatened, we will either retreat or fight back--emotionally or even physically. This is an automatic response to the pain and anxieties associated with a need to defend the things we think are dear.
Language as power
The tendency to fight back is very evident in animals. I often tell my clients to consider a cat that is backed in a corner. The cat will instinctively “feels” vulnerable and fights back. The cat cannot converse or negotiate- it can only display overt aggression. You see, neither the cat nor any other animal has the benefit of something that humans may take for granted-language. We have the capacity to put into words our feelings to let others know what is really bothering us or what has the potential to anger us. This ability to use language has been perfected over many millions of years but sadly many take little advantage of this opportunity to access and share their emotional concerns choosing rather to engage in physical and verbal aggression.
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary t
What does it take to make people realize that we live in the United States, an how important it is to buy things that are built in this country, if you don’t think so, just ask the Ford motor company, who’s chomping at the bit, just to stay alive in this economy.It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see what’s going on here, people have quit supporting our country and it’s products, and this is a sad thing to see happening in the USA, I think it’s all due to the ignorance of the people that call themselves Americans, and when it come time to prove it, they turn their backs on our country.By not supporting our countries
In reality what I am encouraging is that we become more self aware. I am also encouraging that we have a new internal conversation that allows us to be in tune with our needs, expectations and desires. To do this effectively we need a stronger emotional vocabulary. Often we have unmet needs and expectations which are unfulfilled. These represent sensitive areas in our thinking and feeling that, if threatened, we will either retreat or fight back--emotionally or even physically. This is an automatic response to the pain and anxieties associated with a need to defend the things we think are dear.
Language as power
The tendency to fight back is very evident in animals. I often tell my clients to consider a cat that is backed in a corner. The cat will instinctively “feels” vulnerable and fights back. The cat cannot converse or negotiate- it can only display overt aggression. You see, neither the cat nor any other animal has the benefit of something that humans may take for granted-language. We have the capacity to put into words our feelings to let others know what is really bothering us or what has the potential to anger us. This ability to use language has been perfected over many millions of years but sadly many take little advantage of this opportunity to access and share their emotional concerns choosing rather to engage in physical and verbal aggression.
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary
If you feel exhausted and want something fresh to release all your fatigue, why don't you take a teaspoonful of honey and add to your tea, then drink it. You are going to feel better then.It's not difficult to find honey as it is easy to get and available everywhere in the market. In fact, honey has been a part of the commodity in the ancient century. They used honey for different purposes such as for health treatment, food and beverage, and other useful matters.Nobody has doubts the usefulness of this sweet viscous fluid produced by bees. Honey makes a good alternative to sugar in food and beverages.Honey is a s
Language as power
The tendency to fight back is very evident in animals. I often tell my clients to consider a cat that is backed in a corner. The cat will instinctively “feels” vulnerable and fights back. The cat cannot converse or negotiate- it can only display overt aggression. You see, neither the cat nor any other animal has the benefit of something that humans may take for granted-language. We have the capacity to put into words our feelings to let others know what is really bothering us or what has the potential to anger us. This ability to use language has been perfected over many millions of years but sadly many take little advantage of this opportunity to access and share their emotional concerns choosing rather to engage in physical and verbal aggression.
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary
After dealing with all the demands of a wedding, you don’t need more stress on your honeymoon. Romantic honeymooning resort deals save you money and take the stress out of the process.Planning the perfect honeymoon can be anything but relaxing. The stress of choosing a perfect location, time of year, and finding the best deal for your trip can all add up – making planning your honeymoon a chore instead of something to look forward to. One way to avoid the stress of planning a full honeymoon is to choose one of the many ready made deals that are available from travel websites and travel agents. Pre-set deals can definitely make
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary
January is typically is a time of reflection and renewal for all of us on both a personal and professional level. This also applies to the real estate industry and what we must do with our listings. While there are many valid arguments on why December is an active real estate month, most people focus on January as a fresh start to the market. If you are a listing agent, it may be time to take a detailed look at the positioning of your listings in inventory. Successful agents take a proactive approach to making sure their listings are “in the market” not just “on the market". There are many critical things to maximizing the timing in
Emotional Vocabulary
This brings me back to the emotional vocabulary. In my mind this revolution in thinking holds the key to assisting us in quickly being aware of how we feel and taking action to avert an unnecessary outburst. While there may be more than 2000 feeling words in our vocabulary the average person would be lucky to know 50. This is troubling because we need that emotional vocabulary to gauge how we feel and how those feelings can potentially lead to anger outbursts. Let me illustrate by providing a scenario and then describing a list of feelings that could have led to the aggression.
Tom’s story
Take a chain of events occurring in the life of a man we will call Tom. Tom is a successful banker having trouble in his life. On the day in question, Tom berated one of his employees calling him offensive names which led to Tom’s suspension from work. The background story is that Tom is going through a divorce and had received a letter form his wife’s attorney detailing an extensive alimony payment the morning before the incident with the employee. On the way to work Tom was driving aggressively, he refused to greet others when he entered his office building and just before the incident, Tom found out the employee he berated had fowled up a contract bid.
Tom displayed anger and aggression towards this employee but if we dig deeper one may realize that he had many other emotions which include feeling abandoned by his wife, on edge, betrayed, regretful, hopeless, vulnerable, broken, burnt out, cheated--the list can go on. The point is that Tom was driven by his emotion but was not aware of it. Instead, he displayed rage. Inappropriate anger is an extremely ineffective way of dealing with these complex emotions because in reality Tom needed to resolve issues related to himself and his wife. The employee who unsuspectingly came into the line of fire was hit by a “stray bullet.” Anger is often a stray bullet which is fired not at the source but at anothe
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