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The New Marriage - Part Four of Four
When we are children we do not yet have an identity. We learn about who we are through the mirroring that we get from our parents. It is called mirroring to describe the ability of good parents to gently hold up an imaginary mirror in front of the child until they learn to see themselves clearly without harsh judgments. If we do not get enough realistic mirroring during the years we live with them, we remain pretty clueless about who we really are.
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Sacred Love - Compassion is Understanding and Understanding is Wisdom
Each day count your blessings to be alive and able to love. Although emotion may suggest that life is not always fair, never allow the pains, hurdles, and disappointments of the moment to overwhelm your loving attitude and plans for yourself and your beloved. What you don’t appreciate, depreciates. You can never win when you wear the resentful mask of self-pity, and the bitter taste of accusation. They will certainly frighten away any opportunity for love. Never again hold a critical thought for yourself or your beloved. There is a better way.
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Speaking the Truth
'Live your life at the campfire' says Brandon Bays (The Journey), meaning that we don't need to wait years to deal with issues but rather deal with them right here in the now. Whenever you are ready to let go of stored emotions, empty out all the past pain and come to a place where complete forgiveness is possible - let it happen! Your life will provide you with enough opportunities to learn, understand, and let go - WHEN you do each step is your choice.
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Divorced Dating: One More Try
For those who have been divorced or separated, it can be quite a difficult transition, especially if there are kids involved. However getting back into the dating scene doesn't have to be impossible or difficult. Of course do not jump onto the scene right after a separation, and do take your time until you feel you are ready again.
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Sociological View on Family
Definite and usage of main principles and notions is of the most important requirements set for sociological researches. The categories of family and marriage are the most complicated and hardest to define. First of all, traditions of usual conscience and word usage that are not always correspond to those of scientific and theoretical nature; have impact on their understanding and definition. Secondly, both marriage and family are studied not only by sociology but by a range of other sciences which creates many different approaches to them and accordingly more or less specific and abstract definition of these notions.
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Yours, Mine, and Our Emotional Needs - The Marriage Makers and Breakers
A common theme in my articles, on my website, and in my coaching practice is on needs. For our purposes we define a need as a condition requiring relief. There are quite obviously many needs that you meet on a daily basis. Hunger may be one of the first things to come to mind when we think of needs, however, this is more of a physical need and we want to focus on our emotional needs!
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Common Marriage Problems – Not Making an Effort
It’s so tempting to take things easy once the ring is on your finger. So many of us decide that the hard work is done and that going forward a marriage doesn’t require any effort. One of the most common marriage problems is to just take a back seat, let life pass you by and assume that married life is for every no matter how little effort you make.
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A Date to Remember - Tracked Down by an Ex-Lover
The Internet has made connecting and re-connecting far easier than ever before. In fact it is now effortless, but the question I beg is should we contact old flames just because it is easy to do so? We have to think about the other person's life and the effect it may cause them before we do. This only gets more true as time goes on, your life has changed significantly, surely theirs has as well. What impact will your casual hello have on them? It could be wonderful or catastrophic.
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Bad in Bed? The Problem Might be Inside Your Head
The above statement is not merely an amateur poet’s attempt at rhyming; it is a fact. More often than not, our sexual problems (and there are so many of them), are all related to what’s going on inside our head. Problems in our sex life might seem just physical, but there’s a whole lot of psychology behind things going wrong in the bedroom.
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The Changing Face of Change
Anyone who knows the military would advise, if you fear and resist change - don't become a military spouse. Tell that to my daughter.
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Infidelity
Nearly half of marriages in the United States end, and one of the biggest reasons for this is infidelity. This article will help you understand exactly what infidelity is, why it happens, and how to cope with it if it happens to you.
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Should Relationships Be Reciprocal?
Have you ever had a one-sided relationship with someone? Have you ever wondered what your role with another person was? Sometimes having the friend that only speaks about themselves, their interests, or what is important leaves you to feeling drained. What do you do? What do you give up to be involved with such a person?
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Kissing Cyber-Frogs
My first-hand experience with long-distance, cross-continental, Internet love! (It ain't pretty, but I survived).
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I Ain't Eating No Chitlins
Yes, we Black men and women have some collective concerns, a certain amount of shared pathos , arising from our shared painful past which we are daily changing to a triumphant future - but we are each something more fundamental than a cog in a Great Black Cause. I am, like you - just me.
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Releasing Relationship Pain
If you are still hurting from a previous relationship then this article will help you to release that pain and move on through simple yet practical techniques
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The Antique Carpet Runner
Right there, on the floor, disguised as an antique carpet runner, conflict, resolution, intimacy and deeper understanding are enfolded all around us. Try as we would, we can’t hide. So why not open to the possibilities. After all, that’s what intimacy is all about.
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Know Your Man: Being on His Side
This is a series of short articles about men and their preferences. Men are not difficult beings, or the enemy, as some women would like us to belief. They are simply different. By understanding and accepting their men, women can save their relationships and keep their sanity.
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