You were happily married. May be for a while. And you split. It can be imagined irrespective of the length of a marriage, a divorce does leave immovable scars. And the mere thought of seeing someone again can be dissuading. Love is all about being vulnerable to someone – why go through it again?

Persistence is the key to achieve the transformation to greatness. Anyone can become a great partner regardless of past experience or lack thereof. If you are a person with a sincere heart and honest efforts, you will achieve the status of greatness. It will be a result of your willingness to risk and your persistence to stay with it even when it seems that you are not getting anywhere.

If you want more out of your relationship then you have to be more. Relationship Specialist, Mark Webb, shares an excerpt from his bestselling book, How To Be A Great Partner.

Couples often come into arguments and start fighting forgetting where they are standing. You have to be conscious of the place when you come into an argument and avoid fighting in a crowd. Couples often start arguing and then end up fighting when they are attending a party or any other family gathering. This not only creates an embarrassing atmosphere for the couples and family members but also becomes a talk of the town.

Have you ever been minding your own business when suddenly, out of nowhere someone contacts you and unexpectedly bursts into a fit, demanding that you do something you have no idea what is and then, because you can't give them this one thing, this person starts calling you names among doing other nasty things?

Following traditions in some way bring excitement in you life. There is always something you are expecting. Make it a tradition to celebrate your anniversary at some particular place you both love to go, it could be a restaurant which has its own specialty, a solitary place where you feel close to the nature and close to each other. Follow traditions to keep your married life full of excitement and fun.

We make mistakes doing household work, doing office work and in relationships too. Those of you who ignore the mistakes make the biggest blunder in their life. If you make mistakes learn from your mistakes and never repeat them. Making mistakes, accepting and then not repeating them builds a positive attitude in a person. The positive attitude broadens your mental outlook and builds better understanding of people and situations.

Compliments are a golden key to your mate's heart. Paying honest compliments is a very inexpensive way to reach out to your mate’s heart. Do not be a miser but generous in giving compliments. So it is a must to notice the good things about your partners and compliment each other and get glued together.

Having a birthday is actually a wonderful thing. Why do so many people freak out? I am happier now than I was 20 years ago.

Showing love to each other increases the love. If you love your spouse show it with care and affection. If somebody cares for you and considers your likes and dislikes then there is an element of love in that relationship but if that care and consideration is shown in a love relationship then it is the exact way to express love with a difference.

Experience the thrill of dancing together and the closeness to each other. These are such moments in your life that you always enjoy and cherish. They relax you from the stress in your life and give you a chance to come to close to each other.

Many times we do things in life for no particular reason or occasion, we do those things because something from inside tells us to do it, as such in a relationship too love should be showed for no reason but simply the fact that you love your partner and it is the heart within us that tells to do it. Doesn’t your heart tell you to simply buy a gift for your lover when you come across something that reminds you of him or her? You gift should not necessarily be an expensive one as it is just a way to express your love and love is not big or small.

Birthdays are the occasions to show your love and affection. Plan out a candle night dinner, bake a cake, and buy a lovely outfit or a ring for your partner. Make it a true celebration to show your love and affection. Celebrating each others birthday gets you close.

Discover 3 huge barriers that inhibit couples recovering from infidelity to survive the extramarital affair and rebuild their marriage.

No debates please! The secret of a happy relationship is to keep away from debates. Don’t argue over subjects that have proven differences of opinion among you and your partner Avoid unnecessary arguments.

Pain can only exist in a closed heart. Future relationships suffer from past unhealed wounds. If you can't let go, you'll spoil the next or attract a fool. healing the past is a duty, an obligation to yourself and those who depend on you. Here's how.

Relationships can be so exciting at the start. It’s a time when you just can’t wait to see each other, spend every spare minute dreaming about each other and just can’t keep off the phone. Unfortunately as the relationship develops into a comfortable routine, the excitement generally recedes, the need to touch base becomes more infrequent and a period of normality sets in. For many, the excitement is in the chase and for others the feeling of commitment can become a strain, the recognition that the love of your life is only human and has their faults makes you question your judgment, and the disappearance of those little surprises can out a dampener on the whole thing.

Many men in relationships might find themselves in situations similar to that of Kevin Spacey’s character Lester Burnham in American Beauty. Somewhere along the way after meeting a woman who you thought made you happy, you ended up making sacrifice after sacrifice. Now, you live day to day numb to reality because you have allowed it to take so much. Your only hope in life is for it all too just end and the sooner the better.

Guys serenade her by getting up in the middle of a fully crowded restaurant (not a cheap “all you can eat” type) and declaring your undying love for her in front of a bunch of “I don’t need a man to make me happy” man-hating women. Blaring “our song” outside her window in the middle of the night after you’ve had a nasty fight will get you back in the house quicker than you can say “Halle Berry”.

You are rated for your communication skills when you are a good speaker as well as a good listener. A good conversation is the one that lets both parties get equal amount of time to speak. And when someone else is speaking, you have got to listen otherwise you will never be able to assess their opinions.

Sometimes love is great! Sometimes love hurts. Experiencing love is a Universal need, so how do we heal and love again when our loved ones have hurt us?

For Valentine's Day, you can give a gift of love and life, says Dr. Gary S. Goodman, President of Customersatisfaction.com, sales, service and success coach, and Black Belt in Kenpo Karate. Instead of buying an ordinary gym membership, give the gift of self-defense, suggests this best-selling author, popular keynote speaker, and radio and TV expert commentator.

Are you giving love to your partner for the joy of giving, or are you giving to get love? Do you believe that your best feelings come from the getting of love or from the sharing of love?

Romance is great. But when romance is all you want, all that excites you, all that fills our your fantasies, well, you’re a romancaholic. Here are a few tips that can get you back to reality -- which, by the way, has more romance in it than any fantasy can ever deliver.