Couples need to give each other a lot of attention to keep their relationship healthy. But everything around us seems to pull our attention away from our partner. What is left over for our mate by the end of the day may be very, very little. Here are some points for ensuring that we put the time and attention where it is needed.

Very often people get involved in a vicious and often endless seeming circle of interpersonal frustration. Our reactions need not be of the same negative content. Instead of paying back likewise, we can choose to react in positive ways by adhering to the golden rule of 'doing unto others as we would wish them to do unto us.' And so we can break the vicious circle.