Snag the jackpot each time you communicate

Can you find love love without relationship or relationship without love? It all boils down to what you are looking for, or what you are ready to give. You have to be willing to nurture love. You have to be willing to nurture relationship. As the saying goes, do unto others as you'd like done unto you.

I was thinking the other day (No cracks from my friends please.) about the subtle differences between words that are commonly used, sometimes not used or mis-used. Let me give you an example. I'm sorry. This simple two word sentence can be interpreted so many ways and have so many different meanings for both the person who speaks them and the person who they are directed toward.

It seems that in our society it has come to be expected that women will get together and criticize their husbands and boyfriends and men will get together and put down their wives and girlfriends. Everyone has to have a few sarcastic comments to fling at their partner, especially when there is an audience around to laugh at their expense. We tend to tear down the very person we claim to love. I think it has become so common in our society that sometimes people don’t even realize they are doing it.

Some men take advantage of the 'men-are-as-old-as-they-think; women-are-as-old-as-they-look' saying. They 'know' that looks to women are like shells to snails – they will go to great lengths to preserve their youth (at least for their 'prince charming'!).

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Surprises nourish our relationships. A surprise may not necessarily be a big one. Little things in ones life lead to immense applauds. A small surprise may just do wonders in your relationship.

The situation requires acceptance and forgiveness. Can you accept and forgive without dwelling on the idea that it is truly none of your business whether the other person will mend the hole that is now part of your heart?

Men have spent the last 2,000 years placing an erection on a pedestal and trying to teach women how important and valuable it is. We have placed orgasms and climax at the peak of romantic relations, and in many, many cases inflicted that narrow perspective through our unconscious behavior toward women. We owe an apology for the mass of history, and the blindness of this little perspective.

Seduction, contrary to popular opinion, is not an inborn gift or a talent that some guys are naturally born with. Seduction still comes with practice even for those blessed with great looks and loads of money.

What would you do if you knew you could not fail? In fact what would you do differently today? Does your fear keep you from what you most want? Do you find yourself making excuses instead of going after what you really want in life? Imagine like Indiana Jones who had a fear of snakes, you were tossed in a pit of writhing slithering snakes or do you have a fear of high places or even speaking in front of a large crowd.

Relationships can be so exciting at the start. It’s a time when you just can’t wait to see each other, spend every spare minute dreaming about each other and just can’t keep off the phone. Unfortunately as the relationship develops into a comfortable routine, the excitement generally recedes, the need to touch base becomes more infrequent and a period of normality sets in. For many, the excitement is in the chase and for others the feeling of commitment can become a strain, the recognition that the love of your life is only human and has their faults makes you question your judgment, and the disappearance of those little surprises can out a dampener on the whole thing.

Life in the fast lane means there are hardly any opportunities to meet Mr. Right or your dream date. The dating scenario has rapidly progressed to include online dating, speed dating, dating events, and of course the old faithful an evening at the local watering hole or bar.

Anyone who knows the military would advise, if you fear and resist change - don't become a military spouse. Tell that to my daughter.

Relationships are fertile ground for learning about our selves. Discover what you can learn about yourself when you are judged or rejected by another.

Remember that the other person you're involved with is not you. So, how do the ways he or she is different from you make your life easier, more fun, better?!

Right there, on the floor, disguised as an antique carpet runner, conflict, resolution, intimacy and deeper understanding are enfolded all around us. Try as we would, we can’t hide. So why not open to the possibilities. After all, that’s what intimacy is all about.